Self Esteem is a state of mind.
The following hub did the most amazing job at breaking down self esteem and I won't try to top it at this time (which would be pretty hard because its well written).
I want you to check it out. My my contribution is near the bottom of this hub, my secret recipe of self esteem affirmations that I used to put into my subliminal/meditation CD's for boosting self esteem.
How to Build Self esteem (different authors hub well written)
Self esteem is about loving yourself, and tuning yourself up to a point where you liberate others around you by example. One of the most impactful poems about this that I've seen is in the picture below:
This was my formulation of affirmations on my Self Esteem Subliminal/Meditation CD. I used this Script in every CD I sold but each CD had a seperate segment of it. This is One powerful script as it contains the entire matrix of self esteem "upgrades".
How to use this in your daily life for optimal self esteem and self confidence that radiates
The following affirmations if you read through them when you feel lost, low, lonely or anything else infectious to your high self esteem will help you nail which part of your "engine" needs a tune up.
I use this list every day both in listening to it subliminalized into every mp3 music track I own (using my own subliminal technologies) and through reading it to discover what part of my self esteem is being affected. I usually will listen to the tracks while writing something and after a few runs through songs I have an idea of what's affecting me today (challenging me) and I pull up my list (below) to check which item(s) seem to highlight to me (stick out).
It works a lot like tarot cards in showing you what's amiss inside your subconscious mind by standing out. All these areas are tested daily and for someone with a high self esteem most of these will remain untouched (don't seem to stick out) but even the person with the highest self esteem will see areas that stick out here. Just reading this list once a day after about a month will start to affect you in a very positive way.
I'm at the point where I can see things AS they happen and can deal with them on the fly.. Memorizing this list is not neccessary, as if you read it daily you will start to do that automatically. The effortless way is to read it and write down what sticks out so you can deal with that (i.e. research hubs for a hub on that particular segment of self esteem etc..).
If you read this list at least once a day all the way through, the principals in it are powerful enough to open your eyes to your world around you and show you what is infecting you. This list contains all the needed awareness principals to high self esteem. Don't take it for granted. Print it out and put it on the fridge or frame it and hang it on the wall.
Don't think that even when your fully tuned up that these things won't infect you (self esteem challenges). What this will help you do is recognize them as they happen, and knowing is half the battle. You have to acknowledge a problem before you can even start to deal with it right?
I thought I'd finally share it with the world free.. So below is that script. Print it out and pass it on, but if you email it please include my name.. and a link to this hub, That's all I ask. I prefer you just link to this hub in email not copy/paste the words.
Until now this script was the kernels secret recipe (and I'm the kernel lol).. It is very powerful and works well. I hope this helps you.
Kernels Secret Self Esteem Affirmations Recipe
I accept myself completely without qualifiers
I have a solid sense of self-identity
I see myself realistically and objectively
I find deep inner peace with myself as I am
I say positive things about myself to myself
I forgive myself for all I have done
I forgive every person in my life who has undermined my self-esteem
All of my false images of myself from the past are now dissolved
I love and accept all parts of myself
I love and accept all of my thoughts and feelings as part of myself
All false messages about me are now dissolved in total grace
I love and approve of myself aside from my accomplishments
I have positive self esteem apart from others judgments and criticisms
I love and approve of myself without pleasing others
I accept myself completely as I am, though I recognize areas for improvement
I value and honor myself as I am, though I recognize areas for improvement
I am loving and accepting of who I am and who I am becoming
I stand firmly in my powerful positive self-esteem
I believe strongly in my powerful positive self-esteem
I feel total peace with my powerful positive self-esteem
I am secure in myself and confident in myself
I discover, uncover, and recover aspects of my self-confidence daily
I maintain my self-confidence in all times and places
I balance my self-confidence with modesty in perfect ways
I dissolve all obstacles to having complete self-confidence
I heal all my issues around loss of self-confidence
I recognize and honor my true talents, abilities, and skills
I am confident of my capabilities, expertise, and know-how
I dissolve all false expectations of myself
I forgive myself for not living up to others expectations
I see each part of my life as a lesson in attitude and feeling
I forgive myself for any and all past mistakes
I dissolve all my fear around making mistakes
My self-confidence is in who I am, not what I do
I have faith in myself and my future
I stand firmly in my belief in myself
I believe in myself completely
I feel self confident from the inside out
I am now filled with miracle consciousness
I move forward, feeling self-confident every step of the way
I open my heart to allow love in at all times
I open my heart to the magic of being alive
Life is a wondrous thing and I open my heart to celebrate it
I recognize the world as a safe and loving place
I reclaim my childlike ability to love without fear
I love myself and others unconditionally
I am loved and loving, and I rejoice in it
I hold the pattern of unconditional love and life flows easily
I dissolve all guards and shields I have around my heart
I dissolve all barriers to loving myself and others in peace and harmony
I release all pain and sadness from my heart in peace
I release all bitter experiences from my heart in peace
I release all fear and grief from my heart in peace
I connect with myself and others through my heart
I am safe on all levels as I go through life with my heart wide open
Only good can come to me when I open to give and receive love
I open to the power of people, places, and things to stir my heart
I surround myself with people with open, loving hearts
I have an infinite amount of love to share and I do so joyfully
I start my day with love, fill my day with love, and end my day with love
I am not my physical self alone
I accept my physical self as one part of my whole being
I accept and love my physical self completely
I am in harmony with my physical self
I appreciate the miracle of my physical self
I treat my physical self with the respect it deserves
I forgive my physical self for its imperfections
I change what can be changed in perfect ways for me
I accept what cannot be changed in peace
I forgive everyone who criticized my physical self
I forgive myself for rejecting any part of my whole self
I dissolve false measures and beliefs of physical beauty
I dissolve false measures and beliefs of physical health
I set my own standards of beauty and fitness as appropriate
I create a personal image unique to me
I maintain a personal style that complements my physical self
I value my own way of looking and being
I allow my inner beauty to shine
My inner beauty radiates for all to see
I increase in health, beauty, and vitality dailyI accept myself completely as an imperfect person
I recognize criticism for what it is and I acknowledge it
I welcome valid criticism and I learn from it
I deflect false criticism and I respond appropriately
I forgive everyone who has criticized me
I forgive myself for criticizing myself and others
Being criticized and feeling attacked or inadequate are separate for me now
I dissolve all inappropriate responses to criticism
I dissolve all fear of being criticized
I dissolve all shame around being criticized
I dissolve all humiliation around being criticized
I respond to criticism in perfect ways for me and the situation
I feel loved and accepted while I handle criticism
I feel safe, secure, and supported while I handle criticism
I receive all criticism in peace and calmness
I am assertive and clear when I handle criticism
I remain calm, centered, and balanced while I handle criticism
My breathing stays deep and even while I handle criticism
My voice stays steady and even while I handle criticism
My words flow confidently while I handle criticism
A service I provide
I make myself a new custom track every time I purchase a music CD, or download a new MP3 because its a powerful effortless way to stay tuned up.. But I can (at a very small fee for my time) do the same for you.
This is by no means necessary, it just makes music more powerful as emotions are stirred up when you listen to music you like and this helps to integrate the affirmations more powerfully, and as much as some of us listen to our favorite music, in our car, at home cleaning the house or even like me right now while writing this hub this is an efficient use of the emotions stirred up in those musical compositions.
(Affirmations soak in faster when the mind is prepared through meditation or happy states). I can even take your own voice recording of you reading the script below and subliminize it into anything you want which is actually more powerful as its your own voice your internal dialogue hears most of the time.
If you would like me to customize a Subliminal CD/track/mp3 for you with this script email me and we can talk.. I can do it and email it all online. I invented a subliminal technology that is unlike anything out there and I use it currently to help keep my own mind sharp. I can embed it into any music, track, mp3 etc. I've been using this script for years and find it to be a great asset.
But again you don't need to do anything but read the list below (free) to get results.
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