11:00 PM, Nov. 3, 2011
Article from wausaudailyherald
Building kids' self esteem is extremely important, especially in these days with peer pressure, bullying, and drug and alcohol addictions, just to name a few of the issues that affect people.
Self-esteem can be defined as how people feel about themselves. Children's levels of self-esteem are evident in their behavior and attitudes. If children feel good about themselves, these good feelings will be reflected in how they relate to friends, teachers, siblings and parents.
Self-esteem is something that affects individuals throughout life; therefore, it is essential for parents to help their children realize that they are lovable, capable and competent, beginning when children are very young. Children learn their first lessons about self-esteem from their parents. Children look to their parents and other important adults in their lives for evidence that they're loveable, smart and capable. If they don't get this evidence, low self-esteem develops.
Positive discipline promotes self-esteem. Children who are disciplined with only negative consequences or go through negative talk might learn to behave, but they often do it with a grudge against parents and with little internal self-esteem.
Encourage your children to make decisions for themselves. Decision-making is an important skill for children to develop. Start at an early age by giving your child choices. Spend time with your child, and really take time to listen to him or her. Don't just give advice; rathe,r hear what the child has to say. Let children know that their opinions matter.
Don't demand perfection. Nobody is perfect, and parents shouldn't expect their children to be. Children need to know that their parents accept, flaws and all.
Parents can help build their childrens' self esteem and confidence from the inside very early on. Be a good role model. Remember: Kids watch our every move. If we succeed in teaching morals and values, our kids will be sure to succeed.
Linda Salzman is the program coordinator of Children's Service Society of Wisconsin's Family Resource Center. For more information call 715-845-6747.
Article from wausaudailyherald